Song of Songs 5

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I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride;
    I have gathered my myrrh with my spice.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;
    I have drunk my wine and my milk.


Eat, friends, and drink;
    drink your fill of love.


I slept but my heart was awake.
    Listen! My beloved is knocking:
“Open to me, my sister, my darling,
    my dove, my flawless one.
My head is drenched with dew,
    my hair with the dampness of the night.”
I have taken off my robe—
    must I put it on again?
I have washed my feet—
    must I soil them again?
My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening;
    my heart began to pound for him.
I arose to open for my beloved,
    and my hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with flowing myrrh,
    on the handles of the bolt.
I opened for my beloved,
    but my beloved had left; he was gone.
    My heart sank at his departure.
I looked for him but did not find him.
    I called him but he did not answer.
The watchmen found me
    as they made their rounds in the city.
They beat me, they bruised me;
    they took away my cloak,
    those watchmen of the walls!
Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you—
    if you find my beloved,
what will you tell him?
    Tell him I am faint with love.


How is your beloved better than others,
    most beautiful of women?
How is your beloved better than others,
    that you so charge us?


10 My beloved is radiant and ruddy,
    outstanding among ten thousand.
11 His head is purest gold;
    his hair is wavy
    and black as a raven.
12 His eyes are like doves
    by the water streams,
washed in milk,
    mounted like jewels.
13 His cheeks are like beds of spice
    yielding perfume.
His lips are like lilies
    dripping with myrrh.
14 His arms are rods of gold
    set with topaz.
His body is like polished ivory
    decorated with lapis lazuli.
15 His legs are pillars of marble
    set on bases of pure gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
    choice as its cedars.
16 His mouth is sweetness itself;
    he is altogether lovely.
This is my beloved, this is my friend,
    daughters of Jerusalem.

Go Deeper

This passage has several distinct movements, beginning with v. 1: (Friends of the bride and groom speaking) “Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love.” Love is more than a private affair. What one does with one’s sexuality is always more than a personal matter. It has widespread social implications. This is why traditionally, in our culture, a wedding is performed with witnesses who represent broader society. The woman now belongs to the man, and the man to the woman. Marriage changes all their personal relationships. The public aspect of marriage explains the presence of “daughters of Jerusalem” (mentioned five times) and “friends” (mentioned ten times). For Christians, selfless love expressed in marriage is a public witness and testimony to the relationship between Christ and the church. In Ephesians 5:31-32 we read, “’For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”

Next, we see what is likely a dream sequence. It would be highly unusual for a Middle Eastern woman to be roaming about the streets in the dark of night, encountering watchmen (v. 7).  The excitement of the preceding section is now replaced with apprehension. The maiden dreams that her lover comes to her, but it is inconvenient for her to respond. She is bathed, undressed and is now in bed ready to sleep. She is slow to acknowledge his advances, and the opportunity is gone. Her lover therefore departs, and she is now sick with longing for him.

Love brings us joy, but we are flawed creatures. There are adjustments to be made in marriage. Our natural laziness, differences between men and women, the variations in the rhythms of life, and our unwillingness to alter our own preferred patterns and habits all contribute to the problem of intimacy. A wise marriage counselor once wrote that the three most common areas of friction in marriage are sex, money, and in-laws. Couples planning to get married would be wise to seek mature Christian counsel prior to saying, “I do.”

In v. 16, the wife addresses her “beloved” as “my friend.” The Song of Solomon is unabashedly a romantic book, but love is never fully satisfied to be content with the physical alone. Marriage finds its deepest meaning and fulfillment only if there is trust and commitment. Our male hero is her lover, but he is more than this: he is also her friend.  


  1. If you are married, does your marriage reflect the love of Christ?  
  2. If you are married, how would your friends describe your marriage?  
  3. If you are single, are you honoring God through your purity?  

By the Way

Ephesians 5:24-25, “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Keep in mind that Christ demonstrated his love for the church by dying for her. A husband should be willing to do no less for his wife. Remember, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” (John 15:13). For a husband, there should be no greater friend than his wife.

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4 thoughts on “Song of Songs 5”

  1. I realize that life happens and not all have found their “soulmate” but if you both are believers in Christ and have the desire God can bless abundantly above what you do have. We make choices in life and they may not be the best ones that God wanted for us but He can and will make those to our good and help us be the best if it is for Him and He is in the middle or really first of it all.
    God thank You for your desire for my life to be for your glory. Thank You that even not “best” choices can be made for Your good. God I give You praise honor glory respect reverence and worship in Jesus name amen

  2. Ella Snodgrass

    I noticed the use of the word “beloved” throughout this chapter. It means dearly loved. What had begun with physical attraction now moved into a prized position of the heart. It denotes a deep commitment which we see in 2:4 “he brought me to the banquet hall, his banner over me is love.” Even with imperfect relationships where there will be missteps and mistakes, we can return to our beloved and start anew.

  3. “She” had a nightmare! To be betrothed to her lover with her purity, then to dream of it being stolen…this is true love and devotion. She loves only him, and is waiting for him to come for her.
    It reminds me how pure Jesus’ love is for us. The longing, the seeking, the commitment we both reciprocate for each other to have that intimate friendship…that blueprint to model our marriages.
    Listen to this song my sister sent me this morning… how timely.
    ‘No one ever cared for me like Jesus’

  4. Longing. Looking. Waiting.
    Then … finally.
    The time has come.
    At long last, all that expectation will be fulfilled.
    Or will it? Where did her lover go? More importantly, why did he disappear in the first place?
    Marital intimacy, while designed and purposed by God, can so easily be undone by human fickleness. Its consummation depends on a precise balance of time, opportunity, and, that most elusive of creatures, the “mood.”
    Sitcoms love to satirize this particular dilemma. Consider this comical exchange among two married couples in “Everybody Loves Raymond”:

    Andy: How come you don’t like it as much as we do?

    Erin: [laughs] Who says we don’t like it? What? We just prefer to be in the mood first.

    Ray: Okay, stop right there. The mood. Just give me directions to the mood.

    Andy: Exactly. And keep in mind that I live further away than he does.

    Erin: All right. You know, listen, I can help you. All you have to know is that, for a woman it’s all about intimacy: holding hands, kissing, talking.

    Ray: Right, I know all that. But when you’re married with three kids, you got no time for that. You got shortcuts?

    Andy: I thought marriage was a shortcut. You’ve already got her in the house.

    Erin: No, there are no shortcuts. Put in the time.

    This is not the first time Ray references Debra’s elusive “mood”— or his desperate attempts for him to secure it—at least, long enough for him to enjoy it.

    It seems to me this fictional couple has a lot to learn about God’s perfect plan for marital intimacy. But even in the real world – and even for couples obedient to God in every aspect of marriage – this continues to be a delicate dance. Allowing my spouse such intimacy, welcoming them into this sacred place of sexual, spiritual union, can be a sacrificial act. It’s tough to set aside the “me” stuff (“I’m too tired, too busy, too distracted)—and even harder to surrender the “us” stuff. “I’m angry. I’m resentful. I’m much too wounded, worried and wound up to be with you right now.”

    Yet Scripture reminds us we enjoy this “one flesh” experience only as we live for each other, selflessly and sacrificially. (I’m forever thankful for such wisdom. I credit it for the success of nearly thirty years of marriage!)

    “A husband has the responsibility of meeting the sexual needs of his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband. Neither the husband nor the wife have exclusive rights to their own bodies, but those rights are to be surrendered to the other.”

    -­1 Corinthians ­7:3-4 TPT
    “In authentic humility put others first and view others as more important than yourselves. Abandon every display of selfishness. Possess a greater concern for what matters to others instead of your own interests.”
    -Philippians 2:3-­TPT

    Imagine what our relationship with GOD could look like every day if only we would be just as willing to sacrifice our weariness and distractions, worries and wounds, and welcome Him into our sacred spaces….

    Recommended reading:
    SACRED MARRIAGE, Gary Thomas
    “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?”

    Brent and Pam Watts
    m. 12/05/1992

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