2 Samuel 14

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Absalom Returns to Jerusalem

1 Joab son of Zeruiah knew that the king’s heart longed for Absalom. So Joab sent someone to Tekoa and had a wise woman brought from there. He said to her, “Pretend you are in mourning. Dress in mourning clothes, and don’t use any cosmetic lotions. Act like a woman who has spent many days grieving for the dead. Then go to the king and speak these words to him.” And Joab put the words in her mouth.

When the woman from Tekoa went to the king, she fell with her face to the ground to pay him honor, and she said, “Help me, Your Majesty!”

The king asked her, “What is troubling you?”

She said, “I am a widow; my husband is dead. I your servant had two sons. They got into a fight with each other in the field, and no one was there to separate them. One struck the other and killed him. Now the whole clan has risen up against your servant; they say, ‘Hand over the one who struck his brother down, so that we may put him to death for the life of his brother whom he killed; then we will get rid of the heir as well.’ They would put out the only burning coal I have left, leaving my husband neither name nor descendant on the face of the earth.”

The king said to the woman, “Go home, and I will issue an order in your behalf.”

But the woman from Tekoa said to him, “Let my lord the king pardon me and my family, and let the king and his throne be without guilt.”

10 The king replied, “If anyone says anything to you, bring them to me, and they will not bother you again.”

11 She said, “Then let the king invoke the Lord his God to prevent the avenger of blood from adding to the destruction, so that my son will not be destroyed.”

“As surely as the Lord lives,” he said, “not one hair of your son’s head will fall to the ground.”

12 Then the woman said, “Let your servant speak a word to my lord the king.”

“Speak,” he replied.

13 The woman said, “Why then have you devised a thing like this against the people of God? When the king says this, does he not convict himself, for the king has not brought back his banished son? 14 Like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be recovered, so we must die. But that is not what God desires; rather, he devises ways so that a banished person does not remain banished from him.

15 “And now I have come to say this to my lord the king because the people have made me afraid. Your servant thought, ‘I will speak to the king; perhaps he will grant his servant’s request. 16 Perhaps the king will agree to deliver his servant from the hand of the man who is trying to cut off both me and my son from God’s inheritance.’

17 “And now your servant says, ‘May the word of my lord the king secure my inheritance, for my lord the king is like an angel of God in discerning good and evil. May the Lord your God be with you.’”

18 Then the king said to the woman, “Don’t keep from me the answer to what I am going to ask you.”

“Let my lord the king speak,” the woman said.

19 The king asked, “Isn’t the hand of Joab with you in all this?”

The woman answered, “As surely as you live, my lord the king, no one can turn to the right or to the left from anything my lord the king says. Yes, it was your servant Joab who instructed me to do this and who put all these words into the mouth of your servant. 20 Your servant Joab did this to change the present situation. My lord has wisdom like that of an angel of God—he knows everything that happens in the land.”

21 The king said to Joab, “Very well, I will do it. Go, bring back the young man Absalom.”

22 Joab fell with his face to the ground to pay him honor, and he blessed the king. Joab said, “Today your servant knows that he has found favor in your eyes, my lord the king, because the king has granted his servant’s request.”

23 Then Joab went to Geshur and brought Absalom back to Jerusalem. 24 But the king said, “He must go to his own house; he must not see my face.” So Absalom went to his own house and did not see the face of the king.

25 In all Israel there was not a man so highly praised for his handsome appearance as Absalom. From the top of his head to the sole of his foot there was no blemish in him. 26 Whenever he cut the hair of his head—he used to cut his hair once a year because it became too heavy for him—he would weigh it, and its weight was two hundred shekels by the royal standard.

27 Three sons and a daughter were born to Absalom. His daughter’s name was Tamar, and she became a beautiful woman.

28 Absalom lived two years in Jerusalem without seeing the king’s face. 29 Then Absalom sent for Joab in order to send him to the king, but Joab refused to come to him. So he sent a second time, but he refused to come. 30 Then he said to his servants, “Look, Joab’s field is next to mine, and he has barley there. Go and set it on fire.” So Absalom’s servants set the field on fire.

31 Then Joab did go to Absalom’s house, and he said to him, “Why have your servants set my field on fire?”

32 Absalom said to Joab, “Look, I sent word to you and said, ‘Come here so I can send you to the king to ask, “Why have I come from Geshur? It would be better for me if I were still there!”’ Now then, I want to see the king’s face, and if I am guilty of anything, let him put me to death.”

33 So Joab went to the king and told him this. Then the king summoned Absalom, and he came in and bowed down with his face to the ground before the king. And the king kissed Absalom.

Go Deeper


  1. Having or showing dogged determination not to change one’s attitude or position on something, especially in spite of good arguments or reasons to do so. (Oxford English Dictionary)
  2. Example: David in 2 Samuel 14.

Chapter 14 begins with David holding on to anger and refusing to call Absalom home, despite missing him and being in the best interest of the nation. The division in David’s family had the potential to destroy the nation of Israel. Absalom was beloved by his father and the people of Israel, and his absence caused both heartache. Such circumstances threatened to divide the kingdom.

Joab, David’s friend, is well aware of the king’s stubborn nature and knows that direct appeal will not succeed. So Joab designs a ruse that will lead the king to make the point himself. He employs a wise woman to bring a fake problem to David: her two sons got into a fight, one killed the other, and now the town wants to punish the remaining man and burn down her home. David’s compassion for the woman’s situation leads him to declare protection of her and the surviving son. This brings the charade to its climax; she asks David why he would protect her son and home and not show the same mercy to his son and the nation?

Stubbornness is born from pride and fear: the seed of pride is planted in our hearts when we believe that we are right and fear blooms as we perceive threats to that belief. Pride, fear, and stubbornness are not from God. So how can we be more aware of our own stubbornness in order to fight against it? Harvard Business Review offers the following as indicators of stubbornness: 

  • You keep at an idea or plan, or insist on making your point, even when you know you’re wrong.
  • You do something you want to do even if no one else wants to do it.
  • When others present an idea, you tend to point out all the reasons it won’t work.
  • You visibly feel anger, frustration, and impatience when others try to persuade you of something you don’t agree with.
  • You agree to or commit halfheartedly to others’ requests, when you know all along that you’re going to do something entirely different.

If we compare this list to David’s actions, we see the correlation and the harm such an approach can cause. Instead of allowing stubbornness to creep in, we should set our fear and pride aside, seeking God’s guidance and His glory rather than our own. Proverbs 12:1 gives us this insight, “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid.” May we be people who love discipline and knowledge rather than stubbornness.


  1. Think of a time when you behaved stubbornly. What fear and/or pride lay at the heart of that situation?
  2. Are you receptive when confronted with opposing ideas, or do you respond in anger and impatience?
  3. Review the list above from Harvard Business Review. Are there any issues you are facing now in which you are responding with stubbornness? What would it look like to respond with a love of discipline and knowledge instead?

Pray This

Search me, God, and know my heart;

test me and know my anxious thoughts.

See if there is any offensive way in me,

and lead me in the way everlasting.

Psalm 139:23-24

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2 thoughts on “2 Samuel 14”

  1. Ella Snodgrass

    It’s easy to detect flaws in another person’s life but somehow be blinded to our own sins. Even though David agreed for Absalom to return, he refused him access to the palace which drove a wedge between them. David gave his son a kiss symbolizing forgiveness without asking him to repent, further failing to deal with the situation justly. We will soon read how Absalom remained bitter at David and seeks revenge. Oh, what a tangled web our sin causes! I’m noting all the descriptions of Absalom: handsome, highly praised, no flaws, thick hair. However, as my Mama reminded me growing up “beauty is as beauty DOES” and “man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart.”

  2. Kathy Davidson

    This verse stopped me in my tracks: “Like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be recovered, so we must die. But that is not what God desires; rather, he devises ways so that a banished person does not remain banished from him.”

    “God devises ways so that a banished person does not remain banished from Him.” Even in the OT, pre-Jesus, God’s merciful character is known. How much more true is this statement, post-Jesus. God stopped at nothing to bring His people back from the exile our sin caused. He devised the most sacrificial, & the most loving way for us to be reunited with Him through His son’s death on the cross. Praising God today that we are not like water spilled on the ground, never to be fully recovered, but that He went to the greatest lengths to restore us in Him forever.

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